“The Inner Voice of Self Hatred”
We all suffer from inner tensions and critical problems that affect not just our lives but our mental state also. We start thinking that we are not worth things and that we are so different from others. We do not think about self-acceptance and self-potential and that feeling of self-hatred tends to develop inside us. But is this really required? Can’t we think of the ways to achieve a particular thing or to solve our personal issues rather than accusing ourselves of who we are and what we have done? This inner voice of self-hatred needs to be vanished from within ourselves before it destroys us as a person.
“I Hate Myself”
Don’t we listen to this phrase so regularly nowadays? One out of five adults is on this track and instead of rectifying their problems; they create these critics about self-destruction. People belittle themselves for so long that it changes into self-hatred and this continues with the obtainment of drugs and other destructive measures. It is never something we are born with, but something we incur within ourselves over a period of time.
“Causes”
Since it is not a genetical or inherited emotion and is perceived, it definitely occurs due to some causes.
- Comparisons: When a person starts comparing himself to others or is compared with others by family members or friends in which he finds himself inferior from the other person, he starts accusing himself of the kind of person he himself is. Due to this inferiority complex, sometimes this feeling of self-hatred arouses.
- Social Issues: When you are constantly criticized for something, demotivated, judged or made fun of, then you feel lowered and useless which ultimately leads to self-hatred. A person becomes very negative and non-optimistic in all phases. Ultimately you prefer living alone and cut off ties with any social group.
- A disturbing event in the past: Any traumatic experience which still has traces in present, the self-hate feeling grows in a person. Eg rape victims can suffer from this or any molestation victim. He/She might feel unsafe and unsure of the future too.