Being in love is a beautiful feeling. Falling asleep next to the person you love and waking up to their soft breathing, all this seems to be too idealistic especially to the ones dealing with the rough side of married life. After a certain point, it all becomes a routine, and you start wondering where all the fun and excitement has gone. Relationships need work. But hey, loosen up every once in a while and enjoy yourselves. You just might be able to renew the long-lost magic.
Here we have compiled some tricks to help you and your partner relax and this will surely make a happy marriage life.
Find Joy in the Little Encounters
Had a bad day at work? Sit back on the couch and enjoy a movie you both like. Have pop-corn from the same bowl. Dance to some slow music.
Weren’t expecting to run into your spouse at some place? Instead of confronting them about leaving the house unmanned, smile at the pleasant surprise.
Offer to help out with making dinner or doing dishes. Take care of the kids when your better half has an important meeting or presentation the following day or has to meet a deadline.
It’s the little things that count.
Let Them Go
Get off your high horse. Nobody’s perfect. Let go of the possessiveness and mind-games. Trust your better half. Don’t make them feel pressurized with your expectations. Don’t always express your disappointment when they want something their way.
Life is meant to be messy. When you’re in a serious commitment with another person, you’ve got to be messy together. Let them be goofy around you and be at ease with them. Leave the control freak at work.
Letting go can be a blessing if you let it.
Talk It Out
Had another heated argument? Things don’t look so good anymore? Holding grudges never did anyone any good. Take a deep breath and discuss what went wrong. Ask what upset them and tell them why you’re mad. No one is a mind-reader you need to clear things up. It could be that one of you misunderstood something or simply forgot.
Never let the mess pile up. Clean it together.
When was the last time you went on a trip, just the two of you? Has it been too long since you were alone without the kids for a few days? Plan a trip to the beach. Rent a vacation house. Get away for the weekend. Visit a place you both wanted to go but never had the time. Bond.
The calm serenity of the splashing waves can do wonders.
Hang Out with Mutual Friends
Date night or a candle-lit dinner at home might feel like a little too much work after a long hard day. Invite some friends over. Go out on a double-date. The more the merrier, right?
Spending time with some long-time friends or a visit to your favourite cousin’s house can help you both connect in a familiar way. Talk about past experiences, both good and bad. Open up to your partner. Join in a friendly neighbourhood match as a team.
Sports happen to be one of the best ways to mend fences.
Spend Time Alone
Constantly being around someone can feel suffocating sometimes. Get away for a few hours, or days. Go to your favourite cafe. Read a good book in the public library. Have a girls’ night out, or in! Have a game night with your buddies!
Don’t forget to save some fun for yourself!
Get Away From the Gadgets
Stop staring at that cell phone screen. Urgent call? It can wait. Trust me. Don’t prop that laptop on the bed. Your bed is only meant for you two to bond, either emotionally or physically. Disconnect from social media for a few hours. Connect with your surroundings. Talk about your day. Ask about their day. Discuss the kids. Talk about school.
We all know that you need the food on your plate. But don’t let it be at the cost of your safe haven.
Feel Each Other’s Presence
A light touch on the shoulder, a casual hand on the waist, kissing a little longer, a slight brush against the skin when in a hurry, can do wonders. Feel their breath linger in your mouth. Kiss a little harder than usual before leaving the house. Play silly games together. Hold hands in public. Link arms. Feel their heartbeat against yours during long hugs.
Stay ‘in-touch’ with each other.
Give them a surprise hug. Snuggle against each other. Rest your head on their shoulder. Let them fall asleep in your lap. Nestle in their arms. Hold them close. One of the greatest joys of life is to feel loved by the person one cares about the most.
Heat Things Up in the Bedroom
Try a different position. Don’t be afraid to be a little naughty. Go the extra mile. Dress up as your spouse’s favourite character. Flirt. Use some age-old tricks to spice it up.
Sex has also been scientifically proved to release tension and ease stress.
It is hands down, the best way to ‘come together’.