Not every ‘The One’ turns out to be one. Relationships can become onerous after a certain point and the reasons are innumerable that range from petty misunderstandings to substantial trust issues. We fight, we beg, make multiple promises, try to change and sometimes lose our true identity in the process. And when there seems no way out, we decide to take the road to BREAK-UP! It’s not a facile task to forget someone who becomes prodigious part of you and your life.
So here are a few ways that might help ease the pain and help you re-discover yourself.
1. Self – Pamper
We often forget or ignore ourselves completely in the process of making our partner feel at the top of the world and we’re almost always thinking of ways pamper them. This is the time! Pamper yourself just like you’d want someone else to. Spend ‘Quality’ time with ‘Yourself’. From snuggling in bed all day long and watching movies to going on dates with yourself, Do it all! Remind yourself how worthy you are and Fall in love with yourself….. Put yourself at #1 on your priority list and lend your ears to Positivism.
‘Your smile is the strongest weapon.’
Take a step towards your mental health and Wear your beautiful smile and walk like a boss! Show them and yourself that you’re doing better without them and that they aren’t worthy of your tears or time.
Smile, it makes you look Confident.
Smile, because it’s free.
Smile, because life is Beautiful.
Smile, because it makes you happier.
Smile! And never stop…
Let your soul feel rejuvenated!
Connect! Make new friends, Meet new People, Explore!
Have a drink or Netflix and chill.
Stand in the rain and feel every drop that touches your face, look at the clouds and admire the blues, watch the stars shine, welcome the wind with open arms. Fall in love with nature.
Close your eyes and watch yourself smile, feel the bliss!
4. Discover Yourself
We often lose ourselves in the process of holding on to the wrong choices. Well, it’s the right time to find yourself and become your own best friend. Sit down and ask yourself “Who am I really?”. The craze that drives you to know about other people, about their likes and dislikes, hold on to the same craze and make ‘Discovering yourself’, the best adventure of your life.
Spending time with family is therapy. Irrespective of the complexity of the problem, they will always stand with you and be a constant support. Your morals and values begin here. They will guide you, correct your mistakes and even criticize sometimes, but they will also praise you for the smallest achievements and appreciate the slightest efforts made towards them. Arrange family dates, outings, movie nights or just a chat session, it will bring back a thousand memories, stories about your childhood, their childhood, million laughs and unconditional love in your eyes.
6. Begin, again
Cry! Cry all you want. Spend a week in grief BUT after that, when you wipe away your tears, promise yourself to not shed a tear for the same reason hereafter and embrace a new beginning with open arms, clear mind and a beautiful smile. Stick to positive vibes, surround yourself with genuine people and focus on your mental growth.
Crying and dwelling over something that’s over and is in the past will just waste your time. Accept what has happened, leave the negativity behind, learn from the mistakes made and ‘try’ to move on. Do not curse the mind and heart for replaying the same scenarios and going back again and again. It’s okay to think about it but remind yourself that it’s over, for the best and take enough time to get over all of it completely.
8. Make Changes
Take out everything associated with him/her. From Birthday cards to first date bills to photographs; anything that reminds you of your ex. Put it all in the trash or burn it down and challenge yourself to come out stronger than ever. Most importantly, delete all conversations and re-decorate if necessary. It sure is difficult to accept a sudden change when someone becomes a habit but life doesn’t stop and you have to change your lifestyle accordingly.