What is the term, Relationship Goals?
I’m sure everyone has come across this term more than once in their lives. There are multiple accounts on Instagram bearing this name and they post all kinds of pictures of couples from across the globe who pose in the most adorable poses and make us go “Aww! This is totally relationship goals!”Besides Instagram, there are thousands of videos on Youtube as well where we get to see stuff like couples holding hands and walking into the sunset, a guy proposing a girl in the middle of a football match, guys almost on the verge of tears on seeing their girlfriends dressing up for prom, guys braiding their girlfriends’ hair, watching Netflix shows together and what not. And it's not unusual that those kinds of videos raises expectations and makes us want a relationship as glam as those. But why exactly are the couples in these videos so appealing? Why do we crave for that glam factor so much?
Is that what we call relationship goals?
Relationship Goals in Today’s World
Well, these videos and posts about being with the perfect guy or girl have certainly affected the youth today. Teenagers come to know the concept of being in a relationship way before then they are supposed to. And in maximum cases, it’s all about chocolates, flowers and presents nowadays. Boyfriends or girlfriends who organize those extravagant gifts and arrange a whole lot of flowers or an extra large teddy bear for their partner on their birthday or Valentine’s day are considered “cool”.
It’s about arranging the perfect dates, dressing up, clicking pictures on Snapchat, posting cute pictures on Instagram to show off your personal life and of course a whole lot of physical intimacy as well.
When you’re a teenager, your body undergoes a lot of change and the hormones go a little haywire as well. And naturally, you have needs too. But when only physical intimacy becomes the primary need in a relationship, it isn’t healthy.
Sadly, today’s generation is basically based on competition. There’s competition in every field. Be it in studies, workplaces or even in a relationship, there is constant need to show others that you are better. And in a relationship, this can be one of the causes for things to go wrong among many others.
Toxic Relationships and Their Effects
Irrespective of the duration or intensity of a relationship, being in one affects you in some way or the other. Why do we come in a relationship with a person in the first place? It’s because we like the company of that person more as compared to others. But when a relationship starts, certain boundaries are formed and sometimes, the two people involved can’t compromise with each other. And it’s a whole other story when ego, jealousy, doubt comes into the picture.
It’s not uncommon to see a couple fighting over some girl who was maybe talking to the guy or vice versa, Or a couple fighting over a decision made without the consent of the other person, or over making plans with their friends without asking each other, and the list is endless.
To be honest, I have even seen girls crying and shouting at their partner because he was sleeping and didn’t pick up the phone.
Whatever the reason may be and irrespective of whether it's significant or insignificant, it somehow affects our mental state. We feel sad, or helpless or angry or betrayed or lonely or however, our mind works at that time. It causes distraction and no matter how much we pretend we are fine, we aren’t. We aren’t able to set our mind on what we are doing and if you’re a student, that refers to a waste of time especially if exams are going on.
And the worst case is breakups. Nowadays breaking off a relationship with someone seems much easier than building one. People fall out of love like they are discarding clothes. Then again, this is not applicable to every person who’s in a relationship. But in many cases, people behave like it’s the end of everything. They go into some self-pity mode and lose their confidence and in this process of “moving on” everything in their life gets hampered.