102 Getting To Know You Questions

Getting To Know You Questions

“So why don’t you start by introducing yourself and telling us a little about you?” That’s a request  I'm sure we’ve been asked at some point of time or another, be it by teachers on the first day of school, or from interviews to conversations at social gatherings to simple reflection within oneself. 


Taking into account the popular frequency of this query, you’d think by now you’d be prepped with a concise answer, right? Wrong. Because this is just one of those Q’s where the answer changes with each scenario. It’s also one where what you say gives your audience their first impression of you. And considering that first impressions supposedly last forever, you want to make it a good one.


Questions, if framed correctly can provide you with great insight of another person, as well as keep up an effortless conversational flow. Below are some such questions that can serve at providing you with unlimited material and making you a great convo partner, as well as providing you with some insight about yourself.


Getting to know you questions


These are some basic starters that will help you gauge the other person and quickly establish familiarity in a light manner. Another plus is that they’re a better alternative to the usual ‘what are some of your hobbies’ constant.


  1. What’s the meaning of your name? Why did your parents choose it for you?
  2. Are you originally from the place where you’re staying currently? 
  3. Do are some of your favorite things to do in your downtime? And by that, I don’t mean the usual drawing, reading stuff.
  4. Do you have any phobias? If so, why do you think you have them?
  5. Who was your first friend?
  6. Which was your least, and favorite subject?
  7. Which is one place you want to travel to before you die? 
  8. If you were confined to your room for some reason, what things would you want to have with you for that time?
  9. If you could get a tattoo, what would it be and why? Also, where would you put it? If you already do, what does it symbolize?
  10. What would you title your autobiography if you wrote one?


Questions about your preferences 


Something to help you get to know more about yours, or your new friend’s likes and dislikes!


  1. Deep-fried snacks or sweet dessert?
  2. Romedy or action-thriller movie/series fan?
  3. If we were in a situation where a bus we were traveling on broke down and we had time to while away, would you choose to take a walk with me and get a snack if I asked you?
  4. If I opened your wardrobe right now, what would be the most prominent color?
  5. Non-fiction real, or fictitious fairy-tale lover?
  6. Ballards or Rap music? And while we’re on the topic of music, which genre do you prefer the most?
  7. Which song or band have you been listening to most lately?
  8. Do you like spending time with people, or prefer solitude?
  9. Beaches and treks, or shopping and hanging out at someone’s house?
  10. Are you a serious in-the-moment, decorum-maintaining type of person, or do you love being silly and having a good laugh?
  11. Do you like dark humor or light jokes?
  12. Do you sleep with a blanket or an extra pillow?
  13. Are you an introverted ninja, or an outgoing assassin?
  14. Do you like you maternal or paternal side of the family more?
  15. If someone came over to your house with a gift, would you rather it be flowers or some snacks of some kind?
  16. Would you rather buy a cute show-dog, or adopt a stray?


Funny introspective questions about you


Presents you with an opportunity to lighten the mood and have a good laugh.


  1. What is something that happened to you that you still cringe about simply by its memory?
  2. Let’s say we met on a reality TV show, and you had to convince me to buy a pet hamster from you. How would you do it?
  3. What is the most embarrassing thing that happened to you this week?
  4. What’s the weirdest dream you’ve had lately?
  5. If you could trade bodies for a day like in the movie Freaky Friday, who would you wish to swap with?
  6. What’s something that you always find puts you in an awkward situation? (Like approaching someone, making eye contact, etc.)
  7. You get a chance to talk to your crush alone in some public setting and he/she confides to you that they’re interested in some other person who’s in proximity to where you both are currently. Do you help him/her out, or do you try to divert their attention to you? If the latter, how do you convince them otherwise?(C’mon, even if you choose the former, deep down everyone chooses the latter)
  8. What’s a weird talent that you secretly possess, but only friends know about?
  9. What’s one kind of scene in a movie or show where you can never watch the screen? For example, murder scenes or the tense moments leading up to a jumpscare in a horror movie.
  10. You’re babysitting this kid, and the kid keeps refusing to sleep because he believes there are monsters under his bed. How do you convince him to sleep?
  11. Have you had some part of your routine in the past that you’ve changed drastically now? 
  12. Do you have some habits that are considered unconventional by the, ah, ‘societal norms’? (biting instead of licking an ice-cream/lollipop, pouring you milk in first before your cereal, wearing your shoes on your bed, etc)
  13. If you could be an animal for a day, which one would you be and why?
  14. Would you trust a friend with your life? Which of your friends would you implicitly and blindly trust, and which one would you rely on the least?

Have you ever-? questions


  1. Have you ever stalked someone online because you thought they were interesting? (Let’s face it, we all do. Even the best of us)       
  2. Have you ever gotten into hot water with authority? For what?
  3. Have you ever gotten into trouble for a joke? If so, what was it?
  4. Have you ever gotten into a situation where you’ve nearly died?
  5. Have you ever been lost as a child and thought that you were never going to see your family again?
  6. Have you ever been secretly obsessed with someone(a crush, celebrity) that you did some crazy things that were not typical of your normal behavior?
  7. Have you ever had to lie about something big and keep it a secret from your family, but in looking back now you wish you’d have just told them the truth?
  8. Have you ever done something that as soon as you started doing it, your mind went ‘OK, this is a really bad idea’?
  9. Have you ever pulled an all-nighter? For what?
  10. Have you ever been to a party which you thought would be a bummer, but turned out to be a real blast?
  11. Forget parties, have you ever met someone who you never ‘vibed’ or ‘clicked’ with initially, but as time went on, proved to be one of your closest friends and trustworthy companions?
  12. Have you ever wanted at some time to tell someone something but dismissed it as unimportant, only for you to wish later that you had?
  13. Have you ever made someone believe something unintentionally, which was completely false and untrue?
  14. Have you ever wanted to trade lives with someone you knew cause you wish you had it as easy as they did in some aspect?


Some Q’s on your personal views


A chance to voice your opinion, from political  to whether so-and-so should be the new lead in that movie.


  1. Are your political views influenced by your family’s? 
  2. What is your stance on veganism? 
  3. What is something you could do today that is easy to do and would improve your life infinitely, but you can’t bring yourself to do it?
  4. Would you break the law to save a young one?
  5. Why do you think it’s so uncomfortable (and awkward!) to make eye contact with others or to approach and talk to people for the first time?
  6. What something that’s deemed socially unacceptable to do, but you feel that it should be allowed?
  7. Bullying and cyberbullying can have detrimental effects on mental health of kids, especially with the rise in the popularity of social media. Do you think that it should be necessary for kids under a certain age to be exposed to such things only with parental supervision?
  8. What’s something that you’ve done recently that’s changed everyone’s perspective about you including yourself; what was it about doing this that surprised you so much?
  9. Do you think that there are some crimes that are unforgivable, but aren’t penalized as harshly as, for instance, someone charged with murder? If so, what are these acts?
  10. If you could have one kind of climate forever, what weather would you prefer and why?
  11. What’s a trend that you see nowadays that you think shouldn’t be allowed?
  12. What was something that happened at a function that you’ve been to recently that you thought was unforgivable?
  13. Do you think that a person’s preferences tells a lot about themselves?
  14. Do you that Euthanasia is the best option in cases where there is no chance of recovery?
  15. Have you ever had someone close to you die?
  16. Should it be illegal for people who will be unable to raise a child, that is those that are unable to provide all the sufficient requirements like food, care, a stable household and so one, to be allowed to keep them?


Deep questions about you 


By addressing these questions, whether it be to yourself to find out what your life goals are, or to simply get to know another person better, this is a helpful exercise that will help you reflect on the choices you’d take and who you are.

Apart from that, sharing an in depth glance into your persona renders you vulnerable in front of another, which in turn makes them more comfortable in sharing facts about themselves!


  1. Have you ever done things that you’d consider as selfish?
  2. Have you ever felt like you do some of the things you do in life simply because you seek the validation of others? (We all do)
  3. Do you love yourself? And by that, it’s not just something as superficial as your appearance, but do you love your attitude and your personality that’s a part of you as well?
  4. When was the last time you’ve ever felt truly happy with yourself?
  5. Do you have any regrets? Would you change that?
  6. What’s some misconception that you had as a child, only for you to grow up and find it completely untrue? (Yeah, we know adulting is hard, kid you had it SO wrong)
  7. If you could go back in time, what is something that you’d do to change your life?
  8. If you had to spend time with yourself, would you?
  9. What is it about you that makes your friends close to you?
  10. What is something you’re doing that’s standing between you and success? 
  11. Do you take things too seriously? 
  12. Do you fear being forgotten after your death and fading into oblivion?
  13. Do you have a favorite book or movie? What is it about it that makes it your favorite? Why do you think that it’s your favorite?
  14. Are you the kind of person who approaches people first? Or do you let others do it before? If not, what is it that stops you from doing so?
  15. In a hypothetical scenario, you find out that someone close to you (family or a close friend) is suffering from a sickness which can prove to be near-fatal if they don’t receive 


Even deeper questions about you life


Sometimes, just sitting down for a bit and reflecting and introspecting about your varied life choices is just simply refreshing. It provides much-needed clarity as to whether you’re going the direction you want to be heading, as well as to whether you need to be changing up some things about the way you make decisions and the kind of people you interact with on the daily 


  1. How do you wish to die? (Old age right obviously, but I meant do you wish to be surrounded by your loved ones, or alone?)
  2. A simple reflection, but what was something that made you happy today?
  3. What’s something that worries you about your future?
  4. What’s something that you fear and why? 
  5. If you could go back to a conversation you’ve had earlier at some point in your life, would you change anything?
  6. Aside from conversation, is there any specific interaction that looking back, you wish you’d have done differently? Why is that?
  7. Have you ever had any broken relationships( friends, significant others, family members)? Who or what was the cause of the fracture? Do you feel that it was right to let that person or people go?
  8. Is there anybody that you miss so much that it physically hurts you to even think about them?
  9. Is there anyone (besides yourself lol) that’s holding you back?
  10. Is there anyone in your life with whom you wish you could interact more? What’s stopping you from that?
  11. Think of the last 5 people that you’ve spoken to, or had some form of interaction with in the last 24hrs. If you could tell each one of these people something without fearing any repercussions, what would it be?
  12. Do you think that by focussing on something, you somehow send out a positive frequency to the Universe which grants you that request?
  13. If you had to cut off your best friend in order to save them from something (we’re talking no interaction forever, directly or indirectly), would you be able to muster up the courage to vanish from their lives forever?
  14. Are you really happy with the life you’re living now?
  15. Do you wish you were working another profession or in another company than your current one?
  16. Do you wish you had a different friend group from the one you currently interact with?
  17. Do you wish you’d have done things differently when you were younger?


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